It never occurred to me that I would be judged on my toddlers table manners. That having spaghetti in your eyebrows at two was socially unacceptable.
The mommy wars have went too far and they are sucking the fun out of childhood. Kids should be allowed to be loud and messy in appropriate places. A kid covered in dirt at a park is not a big deal. A kid squealing with happiness going down a water slide is perfectly acceptable.
I am tired of seeing mothers try and stop their kids from being kids because someone else may judge them.
Judge away I say. Let your inner asshattery show.
Tell me to my face I am a bad mother for having a mud covered toddler and dog, go on, I dare ya.
Being a kid is about pretending you are a dog without people judging you
it is about eating cake like cookie monster and admitting forks are the enemy
It is about feeling the pumpkin guts squish between your fingers.
Why do you care if you got every last speck of dirt off their hand before running to the corner store? Before a wedding yes, before getting butter ... not so much. Why do you care if they make barking noises at pedestrians you pass. Sure it is inappropriate for a fancy restaurant but just out for a walk? What are you afraid of? That someone is going to give you a dirty look? silently judge you? Talk about you later?
Screw em. You only get one chance at a childhood, make sure it rocks for your kids. If something happened and you lost your kid tomorrow you wouldn't say things like
"I wish his face had been cleaner"
"I wish my dishes had always been done"
no it woudl be "I wish I played with them more" or "I wish I hadn't told them no quite so much"
I may loose the mommy wars and I am ok with that as long as I give my kids an awesome childhood.





