Fine is the minimum I want for my kids. OK is still having a pulse when they achieve adult hood. That is not my GOAL as a parent.
"I was spanked as a kid and I turned out fine"
Well good for you. You know who else was spanked as a kid? Hitler.
Now I am not saying the spanking is what made him psychotic but it also isn't what make you "fine"
I mean lets stop and think about what spanking teaches a kid. It teaches them that people who are bigger than them are allowed to assault them (and by legal definitions it is assault). It teaches kids that people who have authority are allowed to touch your bum without permission. And it teaches them not to get caught being bad because if you get caught someone will hurt you.
"I was made to eat what my parents put in front of me and I turned out fine"
Again so this is the reason you are "fine"?
What percentage of our population has food and weight issues? Just checking.
We use the "I turned out fine" to justify treating our kids as second class citizens. They are human beings as well. They have feelings that are just as valid as an adults. Would it be ok for your boss to hit you when you screw up because he already told you 5 times and if you keep doing it you may hurt yourself or break something or do you as a human being demand to be treated with a bit more respect than that?